Maturity- Day 21-30
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.
Everyone thinks about maturity in a slightly different way.
“Maturity is the ability to think, speak, and act your feelings within the bounds of dignity.” – Samuel Ullman, poet
“To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh at yourself is maturity.” – William Arthur Ward, poet
“Caring—about people, about things, about life—is an act of maturity.” – Tracy McMillan, author and matchmaker
“Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values.” – Joshua L. Liebman, rabbi
Challenge: Are you actively viewing life from a growth mindset?
A “growth mindset” is pretty much exactly what it sounds like: a belief that you can grow. That you have yet to reach your true potential and that your true potential is quite possibly unknown or unknowable.
Carol Dweck explains in her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, that a growth mindset thrives on challenges and sees failures “not as evidence of unintelligence but as a heartening springboard for growth and for stretching our existing abilities.”
The next 10 days of this challenge will dive into our mindset with a focus on maturity. Maturity, or personal maturity, is defined as a measure of how well you have developed in many dimensions and how you approach your highest potential. It is important to have a vision of what our highest potential and mature self looks like. If we don’t have a target or goal to shoot for it is impossible to chart a path or measure our progress!
- Day 21 – Practicing self-control
- We are not wired to resist temptation. Remove Temptations.
- Day 22 – Welcoming challenges
- Be mindful of your attitude, stay connected, don’t procrastinate, welcome competition with your past self not with others whom you may want to compare yourself with.
- Day 23 – Seeking others points of view
- Two minds are better than one. Welcome feedback and input from others. Use judgment to validate the opinions of others and determine what you will do with the feedback.
- Day 24 – Taking accountability for your actions
- Everything is your fault. Once you take ownership of a problem you now have the authority and agency to solve it. Deferring blame to others, the government, your dog, whatever removes responsibility and cripples your ability to find a solution.
- Day 25 – Setting goals
- The difference between a pipedream and a goal is a plan. Use the SMART framework for goal setting.
- Day 26 – Being protective with your time
- Money, joy, happiness, love all come and go. The only nonrenewable asset is time. Be protective of your time for you will never get it back.
- Day 27 – Failing Is Learning
- It is all a matter of perspective. When you find yourself in pain, discomfort, and positions of uncertainty you might naturally fall into a failed defeated mentality. A perspective shift can allow us the find the lessons from the perceived “failure.” Find the lesson and most importantly be truly grateful for it. Through gratitude, you will unlock a world view reserved for the enlightened and it’s a magical place to be.
- Day 28 – Stop seeking approval from external sources
- Our inner child seeks out and desires approval from the eternal mother, the father, the friend, or the mentor. When we recognize that the only approval we need is the acceptance of ourselves, that is when life gets interesting. When we allow ourselves to step into the best version of ourselves, to embody the highest version of ourselves, that is when we will mature into the person we are meant to become.
- Day 29 – Celebrate growth with others
- Be careful of those with whom you share bad news. Be even more careful of those with whom you share the good news. People are not going to understand the growth and transformation you are seeking. Others will downplay your drive/efforts and knowingly or unknowingly attempt and drag you back down to their level.
- Day 30 – Tie it together with GRIT.
- Grit is the trait most associated with people with a growth mindset and success. Through developing grit you will embody the image of maturity we desire to attain.